Dear Readers,

Welcome to my blog!!!

My names are Eseosa Eweka-Valentine. I go by the short form of my first name 'Sosa'. Equally important, I was born and raised in Nigeria. To be precise, Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria. 

As a little girl, I have always loved writing.  I just never knew the right time to share my views and create a fora for exchange of ideas, issues and opinions with the world. I guess the deciding moment for me happened a few years ago when I decided to take an Anthropology course after my move to Vancouver.This course changed my views, thinking and perspective on life. 

Daily, I am inspired by the fact that each and everyone of us see the world through different lenses. Consequently, causing our views on life to differ which makes up our individuality. I have learned over the years, that it is okay to differ in opinion. The fact that I don't see things through your prism doesn't make your judgement wrong and vice versa. 

I love writing about different cultures,  issues and also interviewing people from all walks of life. In 2015, I started blogging and it has been one of the best decisions I have made so far. Why don't you follow me on this amazing journey as I bring heart-warming contents your way.

With love,

Sosa xx


Being present in the moment; Don't do something sit there

Being present in the moment; Don't do something sit there





A couple of weeks ago, I attended a TED x  orientation where I was asked to pick out a piece of paper from a basket. On my piece of paper, had a question which said: "when do you feel alive and energetic"? At first, I was a little bit taken aback as I was unsure from which angle to approach the question. My initial response was when I exercise, I feel alive and energetic.  I knew it would be generic and clichè to say that.  So, I decided to think deeper and do some soul-searching within the short time frame I was given to respond. So, I came up with the response, "being present in the moment". At that point in time, I began to ask myself if I am ever truly present in the moment? Do I make the best of every moment? Am I just existing and not living?

To be present in the moment means, you are fully focused on the now and you aren't worried about what would be or thinking about what could have been. You live where life is happening.  This could be a huge task for us to demand of ourselves as we are only human. We are bound to reflect, beat ourselves up for past mistakes and worry about what the future could possibly hold in store for us. If only we recognized that the past and future are simply illusions and not in existence. 

When we aren't present in the moment we become a victim of time. Time is relative to the motion of the observer. How do we break out of these anxious and dreadful feelings which make us absent in the moment?  We need to understand that time is a human concept and a flowing current of moments.  The clock on your wall doesn't mean anything to mother nature. Mother nature believes life is one evolving moment. So why worry about the past and future, you have no control over?  To live in the moment means to focus on the now because that's the only moment we have. 

People love to paint and make up stories of how perfect and glorious their lives are. First of all, no one's life is perfect. With the evolution of social media, I mean Facebook, Twitter, Instagram it could be quite daunting not to compare, but have you ever considered that these people put only their best lives out there and even when they show you a glimpse of how "horrible" their lives are  there is always a twist to it. 

To be present in the moment, you have to develop a habit of always noticing new things in whatever situation you find yourself, focus on the NOW, take a breath, inhabit the present, accept your problems (if you are being bothered by an issue, find the best possible way to  handle it, instead of shying away) and always remember the only moment you have is  NOW. Life is short, let's make the best of it!!!






Multiculturalism in Vancouver; Are we living in Diversity?

Multiculturalism in Vancouver; Are we living in Diversity?