Dear Readers,

Welcome to my blog!!!

My names are Eseosa Eweka-Valentine. I go by the short form of my first name 'Sosa'. Equally important, I was born and raised in Nigeria. To be precise, Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria. 

As a little girl, I have always loved writing.  I just never knew the right time to share my views and create a fora for exchange of ideas, issues and opinions with the world. I guess the deciding moment for me happened a few years ago when I decided to take an Anthropology course after my move to Vancouver.This course changed my views, thinking and perspective on life. 

Daily, I am inspired by the fact that each and everyone of us see the world through different lenses. Consequently, causing our views on life to differ which makes up our individuality. I have learned over the years, that it is okay to differ in opinion. The fact that I don't see things through your prism doesn't make your judgement wrong and vice versa. 

I love writing about different cultures,  issues and also interviewing people from all walks of life. In 2015, I started blogging and it has been one of the best decisions I have made so far. Why don't you follow me on this amazing journey as I bring heart-warming contents your way.

With love,

Sosa xx


The power of a supportive friend

The power of a supportive friend

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"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia

They say as you get older, your social circle becomes smaller, and you are able to carefully select the people you want in and out of your life. As we grow older, we begin to interact more, which means we meet people from all walks of life. These people have different experiences and upbringing which ultimately shape their behaviors and life choices. 

We have those people who have touched our lives in ways we could never have imagined and those whose names evoke unpleasant emotions or even go as far as giving us nightmares. 

One of the best decisions I have ever made is to forever be mindful of who and what I allow into my space. As words have a major influence in your life. Often times than not, we become the people we surround ourselves with, we become the words we are spoken to. This affects both living and non-living things. Have you ever noticed the way you feel when you are around certain people? The energy you accept and give off. 


Dr Masaru Emoto's Rice experiment gave me a different perspective on life. In this experiment, he separated rice into three glass beakers and covered them in water jars, kept them under the same condition. For one month, he spoke positive words to beaker 1 and negative words to beaker 2 and ignored rice in beaker 3. The rice which had been thanked began to ferment, giving off a strong aroma, while rice in the second beaker turned black and the rice that was ignored began to rot. 

There are different categories of friends. The ones who laugh at you behind your back, the ones who camouflage themselves and act as though they support you when they clearly do not. The ones who only call you when they need something, once they are helped out, they dissipate into thin air. The ones who would be there for you through the test of time, the ones who correct and chide you, not applauding you when you've done something wrong.

I'd like you to travel down memory lane and think about those who have been there for you when you needed emotional support, who did you call at 2 am to tell all your problems to and didn't murmur or avoid your phone calls. Who did you confide in when you had insecurities? 

True friends are priceless. True friends encourage you to maximize your God-given potential. In a true friend, you find support. They go out of their way just to see you successful. They do not make snide remarks and await your downfall. If you've got a true friend never let them go!!


BOOK REVIEW: I know why the caged bird sings by Maya Angelou

BOOK REVIEW: I know why the caged bird sings by Maya Angelou