Dear Readers,

Welcome to my blog!!!

My names are Eseosa Eweka-Valentine. I go by the short form of my first name 'Sosa'. Equally important, I was born and raised in Nigeria. To be precise, Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria. 

As a little girl, I have always loved writing.  I just never knew the right time to share my views and create a fora for exchange of ideas, issues and opinions with the world. I guess the deciding moment for me happened a few years ago when I decided to take an Anthropology course after my move to Vancouver.This course changed my views, thinking and perspective on life. 

Daily, I am inspired by the fact that each and everyone of us see the world through different lenses. Consequently, causing our views on life to differ which makes up our individuality. I have learned over the years, that it is okay to differ in opinion. The fact that I don't see things through your prism doesn't make your judgement wrong and vice versa. 

I love writing about different cultures,  issues and also interviewing people from all walks of life. In 2015, I started blogging and it has been one of the best decisions I have made so far. Why don't you follow me on this amazing journey as I bring heart-warming contents your way.

With love,

Sosa xx


Back from hiatus: Dealing with thinkers block

Back from hiatus: Dealing with thinkers block

''Don’t waste time waiting for inspiration. Begin, and inspiration will find you.”- H. Jackson Brown Jr

Photo credit:  Dennis Van Dijk

Photo credit:  Dennis Van Dijk

I never really believed in writers block or thinkers block until I experienced it.  I always felt it was an excuse writers used to procrastinate writing projects. 

 I have been away from the blog for a while as I had to pay attention to some personal issues. When I was ready to get back to writing again, I felt it was going to be a walk in the park. To my greatest surprise,  it was so difficult getting into the rhythm. Sometimes, I'd start writing and it would be so difficult to get lost in the moment or immersed (that is how I feel when I write or read books).

My professor once drew my attention to the term writers block, as he believes it doesn't exist instead, we should refer to 'writer's block"  as thinkers block, because your inability to write is born out of your inability to think. When I heard of this, at first I shrugged in disbelief and mumbled under my breath, saying "people always come up with new things", but to think about it, I kinda agree because if you can't think how do you articulate or pen down your ideas (both old and new).

Here are a few strategies I use to get past this. 

I talk to friends about my  ideas and for the most part I ask them to listen without saying a word as that could be distracting. In the process of speaking, I get a solution to my answers and this happen more than 50% of the time. 

I go green, Why green? Why not yellow pink, purple or white? Green has healing power and it is one of the most relaxing colours of the human eye to view. It is also associated with growth, harmony, safety, fertility and environment.  Immersing myself in nature definitely enhances my creativity which includes taking a walk in the park. Having that moment all to myself, Helps me clear my thoughts. 

Brainstorming ahead of time helps get my ideas on paper. At first, it may seem like the ideas don't make sense, eventually,  you will be able to connect the dots. Whatever comes to mind just write, it doesn't matter if it seems to make sense or not. 

Change your environment

Change of scenery gets your creative juices flowing. Different smells unleash your creativity and enhance memory.  Take for example, peppermint enhances your attention, alertness, memory and mood. 

Reading articles or books helps you get fresh ideas and perspectives on issues. 

Read quotes from other famous/ successful writers, here are a few I am inspired by

"What I try to do is write. I may write for two weeks ‘the cat sat on the mat, that is that, not a rat.’ And it might be just the most boring and awful stuff. But I try. When I’m writing, I write. And then it’s as if the muse is convinced that I’m serious and says, ‘Okay. Okay. I’ll come.’” — Maya Angelou

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.”- Mark Twain

“I've often said that there's no such thing as writer's block; the problem is idea block. When I find myself frozen–whether I'm working on a brief passage in a novel or brainstorming about an entire book–it's usually because I'm trying to shoehorn an idea into the passage or story where it has no place.”- Jeffery Dever

“If I waited for perfection, I would never write a word.”- Margaret Atwood












Interview with Stylist, lifestyle and fashion blogger : Oge Ajibe

Interview with Stylist, lifestyle and fashion blogger : Oge Ajibe