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Dear Readers,

Welcome to my blog!!!

My names are Eseosa Eweka-Valentine. I go by the short form of my first name 'Sosa'. Equally important, I was born and raised in Nigeria. To be precise, Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria. 

As a little girl, I have always loved writing.  I just never knew the right time to share my views and create a fora for exchange of ideas, issues and opinions with the world. I guess the deciding moment for me happened a few years ago when I decided to take an Anthropology course after my move to Vancouver.This course changed my views, thinking and perspective on life. 

Daily, I am inspired by the fact that each and everyone of us see the world through different lenses. Consequently, causing our views on life to differ which makes up our individuality. I have learned over the years, that it is okay to differ in opinion. The fact that I don't see things through your prism doesn't make your judgement wrong and vice versa. 

I love writing about different cultures,  issues and also interviewing people from all walks of life. In 2015, I started blogging and it has been one of the best decisions I have made so far. Why don't you follow me on this amazing journey as I bring heart-warming contents your way.

With love,

Sosa xx

 

Human story: Vancouverites Give Insight On Their New Year's Resolutions.

Human story: Vancouverites Give Insight On Their New Year's Resolutions.

The highlight of my 2018 was being able to spend time with my daughter in Greece. I don't really have new years resolutions. If had one, it would be to get rid of Donald Trump in a nice way - George and Dafne

The highlight of my 2018 was being able to spend time with my daughter in Greece. I don't really have new years resolutions. If had one, it would be to get rid of Donald Trump in a nice way - George and Dafne


It's that time of the year again, where we tend to re-invent ourselves; go shopping for note pads, journals, books with the intent of breaking a bad habit or meeting our goals set for the year. Without an iota of doubt, new years resolutions are a common practice in different cultures, religions, and countries.

Over the years, I have always had new years resolutions, some I was actually able to keep up with, others I gave up a few months into the year. Last year, my new years resolution, was to grow the blog, increase in my following, consequently increasing the number of readers. Sadly, I didn’t hit the number I had set for myself, which made me think more often than not why I had always given up at some point. Probably, the unrealistic-goal syndrome.

As a matter of fact, an IPSOS survey has shown that eight out of ten Canadians have failed to keep up with their new years resolution. Also, research from University of Scranton shows that only 8% of people keep their new years resolutions, which made me realize I am not the odd-ball after all . So why is it so difficult to keep new year’s resolutions?

Having unrealistic goals could be a factor as to why many people do not achieve their goals?-- the false hope syndrome. These goals become so difficult to achieve when their goals are not in line with their internal views of themselves. Setting unrealistic goals may just make you feel underachieved which could be detrimental to your self value. A few strategies I have decided to implore to achieving my goals include:

Writing down my goals on a planner, most importantly breaking them down into daily-to-do-list. That way I am daily reaching my goals. Lastly, have an accountability partner

So, to quench my curiosity, I travelled to the heart of Vancouver; Downtown and New Westminster to interview Vancouverites. It was definitely an exhilarating, exciting and nerve racking experience all at once, to randomly walk up to strangers and ask questions on their goals, plans and changes they intend to make in year 2019.

Although, Vancouver has been rated one of the most friendliest cities in Canada by Expedia. I was a little hesitant to approach strangers asking about their New Years resolutions. The fear of being rejected is real.

Some were extremely excited about the new year, others not so much, a small fraction didn’t oblige my interview. This was definitely a humbling experience for me as i got to interact with people from ALL walks of life. It definitely gave me the opportunity to see life from a different perspective and be thankful for the little things

I also learnt the importance of emotional awareness. At first , I had approached people who had their guard up, as we got deeper into the conversation, they began to loosen up.

Here are some excerpts from the interview I had with Larissa, George & Dafna and Kelso on their plans for 2019.



My dream is to travel to spain in March. Barcelona to be precise. I want to travel the world- Larrisa

My dream is to travel to spain in March. Barcelona to be precise. I want to travel the world- Larrisa

Part of my new years resolution is to quit smoking Marijuana. I started smoking when my dad passed away to cope with the pain. My focus of 2019 is to pursue acting -Kelso

Part of my new years resolution is to quit smoking Marijuana. I started smoking when my dad passed away to cope with the pain. My focus of 2019 is to pursue acting -Kelso

New experiences, New adventures, New people

New experiences, New adventures, New people

The past two years did not go as planned. I plan on graduating this year. After, I graduate, I will go back to Indonesia to open my business.

The past two years did not go as planned. I plan on graduating this year. After, I graduate, I will go back to Indonesia to open my business.

I would like to create a healthy work life balance. I did my masters in creative writing. I teach at a university for work.

I would like to create a healthy work life balance. I did my masters in creative writing. I teach at a university for work.

I am focused only on career and art. I love lions. The reason why I love lions is because I love to embrace leadership -Alex

I am focused only on career and art. I love lions. The reason why I love lions is because I love to embrace leadership -Alex

I am visiting from Germany with my family. Vancouver is an interesting city… there is the business district and then there is a large homeless population not too far from it. If I am out and about and I look lost, someone would come up to me and ask, “where are you trying to go? You look lost”. In Germany, people would not take the time to give directions to tourists.- Danny

I am visiting from Germany with my family. Vancouver is an interesting city… there is the business district and then there is a large homeless population not too far from it. If I am out and about and I look lost, someone would come up to me and ask, “where are you trying to go? You look lost”. In Germany, people would not take the time to give directions to tourists.- Danny

Human Story : Accountant turned New York based film maker, Meet; Ihunmehai Isaac

Human Story : Accountant turned New York based film maker, Meet; Ihunmehai Isaac

Human Story: Hard of hearing, not a barrier to living in my indestructible bubble of happiness

Human Story: Hard of hearing, not a barrier to living in my indestructible bubble of happiness